Here is the truth. There is no concrete way to prove that there is only one person out there for you. Ask a million people and get a million different answers. But they are all just opinions. It is like believing in God. You make a choice to believe despite the lack of definitive evidence one way or the other.

That said, here is why I believe there is just one person out there for each of us and it begins with purpose.

God is intentional. You can look at every single thing that has been created and see a unique purpose for it. The bees pollinate flowers. The hairs in your nose filter the air. The moon pulls the tides. We can understand and love music because of this delicate little membrane in our ears that vibrates. We, as beings, have a purpose too, and that means there is a plan.

In Psalm 139:13-16 it says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place…your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Notice the word “knit.” A powerful word. God did not just throw each of us together. He crafted us for a purpose. He formed us with precision and wonderful intricateness so that we could achieve that purpose. And then the last verse. He crafted the very days each of us would live with that same intricacy. Not just the major events of life, but all our days.

Let us look at another. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,” Jeremiah 29:11. God has plans for us! And they are good plans with hope and promise. They are also perfect plans. (“As for God, his way is perfect,” 2 Samuel 22:31)

Now many of us may have the notion that we might not like God’s plans for us. They are boring. He is too strict and will not allow us to have any fun. Not so. Jesus said, “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly,” John 10:10. More abundantly! He plans to give us life overflowing with blessings, with happiness, with joy. We just have to choose those plans rather than going our own way.

If you believe the Bible, then we can agree that God has plans for us. Those plans include the man or woman in our life.

You know what I find interesting. When we encounter a tough problem that we do not have a good answer for, we sit down and ask God for direction. “Lord, what am I supposed to do here? Am I supposed to take the job? Am I supposed to move to Miami? Am I supposed to come clean and tell the truth?” We rightly believe that God has a plan for us and that it is good. But we do not believe He has worked in a man or woman for that plan? That He will let us choose among options?

Well, God will let us choose, but He knows that there is a certain choice that is better than all the rest, that there is a man or woman He crafted just for you and just for me.

Each person is unique. We all have different fingerprints, different genes, different personalities. If so, then there is unique combination of qualities that will satisfy you more than any other combination. Think of it like the whopper at Burger King. A whopper made your way, just the way you like it, has no mayo and extra onions with two slices of cheese. Likewise, Kelly’s unique personality and way of perceiving life and responding to it is your exact mojo.

Solomon, considered the wisest man in the history of the world knew there was just one crafted for him. “There are sixty queens and eighty concubines, and virgins without number. My dove, my perfect one, is the only one,” Song of Songs 6:8-9. He knew that there were beautiful women out there, sexy women, countless women, but only one who was perfect.

Perhaps you believe now that there is one out there for you, or maybe you have all along. But does that mean life should be a quest to find the one? Find out next week in, “The Final Chapter: The Search.”

© Seth Crossman