I have always enjoyed where I live. It is a dusty single lane road that seems to stretch for miles in both directions. The neighbors are quite a ways away and the house is tucked away in the middle of soaring pines and spreading hickory trees. More often than not, the only company we get are the animals in the forest. When a plane passes miles overhead, I always turn to look, because the sound is foreign; I am used to birds and crickets.

In spring the geese flock into the swamp and set up gosling factories. The turkeys are out picking at the newly turned fields looking for bugs or corn from the previous year. The deer are teaching their new fawns the safe paths through the woods.

It is a good home, built for my personality. I am something of a loner, completely content with quiet nights doing my own thing. I seldom seeks others’ opinions before I choose to do things or when I purchase things. I like to live a modestly and the country life of good, hard, honest work is very satisfying.

However, all of this is about to change. I have a new home now. One that is right on the skirts of the city. My lawn isn’t quite big enough to need a riding lawn mower. My next door neighbor is close enough that we have a fence between us. Cars are sure to come down the suburban lane more frequently than my old road. And I think the only animals will be the neighbor’s dog looking for a place to squat.

When most people move, I imagine it is in the opposite direction. They move out to the countryside looking to have a place of their own where their family can grow up. It is stereotypical, but it feels like the only ones that move toward the city are the young, looking for something they don’t have.

I am moving because I am beginning a new chapter in life, one I am excited about, though that is not really a good indication of anything. I have always been excited to start new chapters, whether it was heading off to college, or off to Japan, or even coming home again. In some sense, new chapters are always bittersweet, like sunsets that you wish would just hold still for you to really drink in. They never do and when they slip into night, you turn from the view and head into the house, knowing that tomorrow something new is going to happen.

I will miss the old place, though even that is changing. Why, just yesterday, an Amish horse and buggy passed me as I ran in the quiet of the morning. I waved gave a gruff hello and he responded in kind. It was perhaps just a last glimmer of something honest, a final parting gift from God as I leave. Already the sheep farm up the road is gone and a new house is going up where the deer used to run.

I hope that some day I will go back again and be just as excited to begin that chapter. I do wonder if the old house will look the same. Whenever I go back again to something I left behind, it seems to have lost the luster it grew to have in my mind, whether it was my old high school, my old college, or the little flat in Japan.

But that is a question for another time. For now, I am just going to be excited about my new home, making it my own much as I have done everywhere I have lived.

© Seth Crossman

by Reggie Aquilina

There is no doubt that to truly succeed in life you need to learn how to properly manage your time.

One thing is certain: the most effective and successful people are experts in time management and they have the same number of hours in the day as you do. So time management has nothing to do with magically expanding time to suit your needs, but of using it effectively. It is a question of self-management rather than time-management.

Here are some tips on utilizing your time effectively:

1) Identify what is really important in your life and build your activities and goals around these big rocks. Having clear Core Values will avoid decision paralysis.

2) Identify what are your time wasters: how much time do you spend watching TV? How many activities do you do that can be delegated to others? Do you live in a cluttered environment that drains your energy? Which activities can you eliminate without any particularly important repercussions? How much time do you spend worrying over things that are not within your circle of influence?

3) Eliminate procrastination. Just stop it plain and simple. Identify why you are procrastinating and challenge your assumptions. Are you a perfectionist?- learn how to manage it. Do you create a huge To Do list that's impossible to go through? - cut out on the list. Do you feel overwhelmed with some large tasks? - chunk them down in smaller activities... and just DO it.

4) Use a planning system such as a To Do list everyday. Having a To Do list will help you to focus on the Big Rocks of life especially if you prioritize well.

5) Plan the hardest task and DO IT the first thing so that you get over the hardest task early on when you have high energy levels- in other words, as they say: eat your frog.

6) Learn to time activities correctly. I find that people who are not outstanding achievers generally lack the ability to time activities effectively. If you do not time activities effectively you will find yourself sliding off your schedule and missing out on important activities.

7) Focus on the task at hand. Do not start doing many things at the same time. Chunk big jobs into smaller ones, focus on the particular task, get it done and then move on. And please - do not give me the multi tasking excuse. Yes you can multi-task but you have to be focused on the task at hand.

8) Do not handle an activity twice when you can finish it in one sequence. E.g unless you are sure you can take the time to answer an email or a letter right away- do not open it.

9) Give a strict time frame to meetings or activities. Make sure you come out with clear actions from the meeting as otherwise it is just a waste of time.

10) Drop tasks that you do not need to do or those which are of no benefit. Learn to delegate effectively. Make sure that you delegate to people who have the knowledge and skills and delegate a task completely. Offer help if required but don't breath down people's necks.

11) Avoid being distracted by requests or telephones during activities which you need to focus on intensively. Give clear instructions that you are not to be disturbed unless the office is on fire.

12) Never leave the scene of a situation that requires a decision without taking a specific action. Taking an action right away will ensure you save time in the future. If you keep procrastinating on an action you need to take it will come back to you with a vengeance and you will waste more time trying to solve the repercussions.

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Reggie Aquilina is the Founder of Insight Zone Academy. He is a Life Coach and works in the field of Adult Learning and Development. He is actively involved in providing e-learning resources related to Life Coaching and he is the creator of the Life Coaching Home Study Course: The 10 PowerKeys Program.

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I look around my computer, my desk, around my house, around my life and see signs of disorder and it bothers me. Not only is it hard to find things, but I have piles of things that need to be attended to and stacks of stuff to sort and perhaps throw away and loads of files and programs I just haven’t gotten around to deleting yet. It always leaves me feeling like I am scrambling. I can never find stamps to mail out my letters and bills. My favorite running shirt is somewhere. I often forget the many correspondences or little tasks I meant to do because I don’t have them written down and if I do, that slip of paper has gone missing. All of this robs me of my peace.

As a result I have really begun to study the principle of order and as I do, I realize that God was and is very orderly. In the beginning, He structured the void, separating light and darkness to create days, the flow of time. He separated the water from the land, giving form to the earth. He created man and immediately gave him responsibilities and rules to thrive from.

Later He gave Moses tablets with rules for the people to follow. He taught His people how to approach Him and how to live their life. If you study the first five books of the Bible you see how exact everything was for Israel. He told Noah to build the ark with exact dimensions. He had Moses build the temple with exact dimensions, and later Solomon was to build it with precise dimensions and precise weights of gold and silver.

Even the natural phenomena He created had structure. Look at the seasons. Winter is there for the ground and trees to rest. When spring comes plants and animals have offspring or begin to grow and flourish. Without structure and order, a plant’s stem would have no stability and that plant would tip to the ground. Without the structure of bones in our body, our vital organs would get crushed by the weight of our body. The earth revolves around the sun with measured regularity and even the distance of the moon from the earth is perfect so that the tides and rhythms of the earth keep us alive. The atmosphere has just the right percentage of gases to protect us from the sun and allow us to breathe and this balance is kept through the creatures He created to inhabit the earth.

This list could go on, but you get the point. As I take all of this in it is easy to see that order allows life to thrive. I could learn something from that. I get by in my life. But I could thrive if I were a little more organized.

I wouldn’t spend twenty minutes looking for my stamps only to give up frustrated and go to the post office to buy more. I wouldn’t then be late on my way to the bank and speed past the cop who sensed my frustration and mistook it as arrogance and gave me a ticket, which in turn would not make me angry by the time I got home and so I wouldn’t argue with my wife and push her further from me.

Order isn’t the answer for everything, but I am sure that a little more would be good for me. It just happens to be one of the most difficult things for me to truly grasp and implement though. That’s why I wish ordering my life were as simple as ordering a pizza.

© Seth Crossman

Is it true that what goes in, comes out?

I was doing some research recently and found some disturbing statistics. The average child watches 1,680 minutes of TV in a week. That same child spends 3.5 minutes a week in meaningful conversation with their parents. That child will spend 900 hours in school a year. And that child will watch 1500 hours of television in a year.

I love TV. I’m not against it at all. But as I thought about these stats I began to understand why people think and behave the way they do.

As I study the stats above, I realize how much TV is shaping the way our children think. It is incredible to see that they will get more TV input than they will world history and classic books in English class. It is incredible that they watch so much more TV than they have meaningful conversations with their parents. Honestly, who is doing the teaching? Can they get more from that three minutes a week than they can from the twenty-five plus hours of TV they are watching? I am not sure.

If all they watch are shows like Desperate Housewives and How I Met Your Mother, then gradually those shows will begin to shape their thinking. It never happens overnight. They won’t watch one episode and suddenly think that sleeping around is a culturally acceptable thing. These kind of shifts in thinking never happen suddenly. It is a gradual procession, a constant stream that like any river wears away at the edge of the riverbank. In this case, their mother might have taught the traditional point of view that they should wait for marriage and that sex is special. After two years of watching such shows their thinking might, it is quite easy to see how they might begin to see it as acceptable.

I have seen it in myself. After fifteen years of watching movies and TV I feel my idealistic and innocent self has mostly disappeared. I always knew what was right and honest and good. Everything was black and white. But slowly, over the years, I took a few steps off the path. I didn’t realize I was off the path until I was so far off that I couldn’t even see it anymore.

So what’s the fix? Well, it means changing the input.

If it is true that our best thinking comes from those we spend time with, the range of experiences we have, and our level of learning, then it would stand to reason that we would want those three things to be the best possible. We would want intelligent and resourceful friends. We would want broad experiences that leave us with positive growth and understanding of ourselves and the world around us. And we would want a consistently increasing level of learning.

I think most of us can agree with this principle.

We know that our choice on whether to cross a busy road has been shaped by our knowledge of how fast cars move, what happens to those who don’t look both ways, and how we know such an accident would change our lives for the worst.

We also know that hanging out with a drug dealer who is on the lamb from the FBI is not a safe thing to do. We have seen enough TV and read enough books to know that a gunfight is bound to ensue. We also may make a decent assumption, based on our experience with people, that such a person is not the kind of man we would want our daughter dating or whom we would want to hang around for very long if we want to live a happy, peaceful life to the age of 85.

If we want our children to have the best possible thinking, the most rewarding life, then it means we must make sure that what they learn and what influences them is the best it possibly can be. If our children are watching so much television, we must make sure that the television is broadcasting the right things, the kind of things we want our children to learn and believe.

© Seth Crossman

by Sudhakar Ram

"It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.” ~ M K Gandhi

Money has been the world’s primary measure of success over the last 200 years. Nations want bigger GDPs. Corporations want higher market capitalization. And we individuals all want fatter bank accounts. The assumption is that if we have the money, everything else can be acquired. Money can buy us better health, more leisure time – and even increased happiness.

Our experience, however, has shown that wealth does not necessarily bring us health, time or happiness. Research shows higher levels of unhappiness – stress, divorce, etc. — in wealthy nations like the US. Health care — or rather, disease care — remains a major concern, costing the country around $2 trillion to treat the 300 million citizens.

Let’s indulge in a bit of fantasy. What if health replaced wealth as the primary measure of success? Would we be better off as individuals, as companies, as countries and as a world?

If health were the ultimate measure of success, we would eat the right food – fresh and nutritious. We would take our time over our meals, enjoying conversation with friends and family. We would follow a more balanced lifestyle, allocating time for exercise, for reading and learning, and for rewarding relationships. We would follow our creative passions and pursue our true calling, rather than chasing stressful careers that leave us exhausted and burnt out. Isn’t it likely that we would be happier than we are today?

For companies, health would translate to longevity. Companies that survive the longest, making a meaningful contribution to the world, would be considered the healthiest. This would lead to more organic approaches to growth, rather than the intense focus on quick fixes and rapid expansion. Companies would discover and live up to their long-term potential rather than the short-term bottom line each quarter. Rather than settling for minimum standards and acceptable performance, companies that intend to be around for centuries would invest the time and energy to excel.

As countries, success would mean that every constituent part – the citizens, the cities and villages, the institutions and the systems – are healthy and vibrant. Governments at every level would be focused on eliminating poverty, squalor, pollution, crime, corruption and disease. Citizens would demand leadership to ensure that every part of their country gets the necessary infrastructure and basic amenities like education, health care, water, electricity, and law & order. Countries would vie for the cleanest, healthiest and liveliest environments to potential citizens and corporations.

A healthy world would be a clean and sustainable world where bio-diversity is maintained and all beings co-exist in their natural environment. In such a world, non-renewable natural resources would be consumed in moderation while renewable resources would be used and replenished diligently. Countries would agree to share common resources. Global institutions would bring peace and good health to humanity as a whole.

The purpose of this piece of fantasy is to show that a slight shift in our goals can bring about dramatic changes in the way people live, work, consume and enjoy their lives on this planet. Why don’t we, as humanity, choose a better way? Why don’t we choose health and happiness over wealth as our primary measure of success? Do stay engaged and contribute to this dialog.

Sudhakar Ram is Chairman and Co-Founder of IT solutions provider, Mastek. He believes that creating a sustainable world would require a shift in the “constructs” that drive our attitudes and actions. The New Constructs is an initiative to examine our beliefs and assumptions – about life and living – that we need to reinvent in order to create a more inclusive and sustainable world. It is an opportunity for each one of us to connect, collaborate and co-create the world that we will rebuild for posterity. Do post your own examples on the Wall.

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If you look back over the course of history, what started as a trickle of inventions has turned into a waterfall. Imagine it: first came fire, then five thousand years later the wheel, then a thousand years later the plow, then five hundred years later the printing press, then a hundred years later the telescope. Now, every day brings new inventions and advancements in previous inventions.

The internet is one of the more recent developments when you look at the timeline and it has been fascinating to watch it morph from a data transfer technology into a realm of unspeakable possibilities. Some even call it “the next great frontier,” a statement I won’t argue with. Why, just the other day, I finally explored what I imagine will become one of the world’s greatest addictions in the coming years: the virtual world.

Back in 1996, Tad Williams wrote a book called “Otherland, City of Golden Shadow.” In it, he wrote of a future where people plug into the internet and enter into an online fantasy world where there are rules and structure, but endless possibilities. His was a dark reflection of the real world, where reality could be stretched because it was not bound by the laws of physics.

We read books these days and watch movies and part of the excitement is being able to live and experience another life, another reality. Imagine taking books and movies a step further by allowing people to actually go there and live these experiences. That was what Otherland presented. Not could boys and girls plug into the internet and travel to their friend’s house, one that was virtually constructed and furnished and have a real conversation with them, they could then explore a world dark and seedy and wonderful and enigmatic all at once.

This is becoming reality.

A few years ago at the height of Myspace’s popularity, there was a slightly similar Korean site called Cyworld that allowed users to furnish a “world” rather than just a page. Then, when you visited your friends, you actually entered their virtual world as an avatar, rather than visiting just a static page with images and words. You could decorate your world by purchasing 2d furniture or you could decorate your avatar with the latest fashions. When I first heard about it, I thought it was a great idea, so I am not surprised by its rising popularity here in the US.

On Facebook, there are many applications that are similar to Cyworld. Last night I entered CafeWorld for the first time, and while it has a cartoon effect and feel, the options and potential of this world are hardly child-like. You can also choose to play Farmville, MafiaWars, Castle Age and many more. These fantasy worlds are a mix between a video game and a virtual world, with the same potential for addiction.

That’s the secret. As more and more people join these social worlds, the more companies and designers will develop them. And as our technology expands, so will our ability to create more life-like user experiences that will suck in more people. The Virtual World will become the next frontier.

It is just a matter of time before Tad Williams’ Otherland style world is a reality, only a lot safer. In the meantime, I am going to hop back on Castle Age with my friends and battle the orcs at the Falls of Jaraya.

© Seth Crossman

image courtesy of CafeWorld

Some years ago I played baseball in Japan. If you looked at our team, you wouldn’t think much of us. Our team was a collection of older office workers and a couple husbands who had put on a few pounds around the waist over the years and one tall gangly American. We looked like an easy win, but for three years our team was one of the best in the league and always had a chance to advance to the national tournament.

It didn’t take much to convince me to play. I had always loved baseball from the first time I had pulled on a glove when I was eight. The team’s captain and catcher was also a friend at the board of education and he was quite pleased to have the “American Fireballer” on his team even though he had never seen me throw a pitch.

Since I was a pitcher he didn’t expect much of me when it came time to bat. My first game he had me batting ninth and was probably the right spot in the order for me. I struck out in my first at bat. As I walked to the plate for my second at bat, he told me, “Now the key to having a good at bat is forgetting about the previous at bat.” The New Year has come and this statement reminds how baseball and the New Year are so similar.

Each at bat is unique. My buddy was basically saying that you don’t carry your feelings about the last at bat into the next one. Each at bat is a new opportunity. Even if you have struck out ten straight times, the next at bat you can turn it all around.

You never know what a pitcher is going to throw you. Just when you think it should be a fastball, he throws a ball that seems to spin in mid air and drop two feet at the last second. Life is just as unpredictable.

Always run out your hits. I have seen so many players hit a chopper to the shortstop and thinking it was going to be an easy out, they didn’t run to first. Then the ball took a bad hop or the shortstop juggled it and the batter would have been safe he had run from the crack of the bat. Good players always try their hardest, even when it doesn’t look like the effort is worth it.

Baseball is a game of endurance. There are a 162 games a year. Some players start really strong, hitting homeruns at a record pace. But when you check back halfway through the season, they only have a few more homeruns and aren’t even close to setting a record. It takes discipline and dedication to have a great season.

There are moments of beauty and moments of heartbreak in baseball. Just like a homerun can send the crowd into a frenzy, a stolen homerun or a bases loaded strikeout can break their hearts. Life has even more twists and turns in plot than the best baseball game.

Money doesn’t buy happiness. How many players chose money over the chance to win and then later in their careers did everything they could to get traded to a winning team? Likewise, my pursuit this year is not going to be money.

When the play is close you have to slide. The right approach (a headfirst dive) is sometimes the only way to get home safely.

One swing of the bat can make you a hero. I have seen the fans boo a player and as soon as the ball clears the fence they are jumping up and down chanting his name. But only the players who don’t let the booing get to them can hit that homerun.

Baseball is a game of inches. A few more inches and the ball clears the fence. A few more inches and the fielder gloves the ball and throws the runner out. A few more inches and the ball is a strike. A few more inches and the batter hits the ball instead of missing it. Life is a game of inches too, and every inch matters.

© Seth Crossman

We want to wish everyone the best of holidays. May this year top all the years that have passed in joy and abundance!

Personally, this year's holidays will be the best in a long time. I am headed out on another adventure for Christmas this year. Los Angeles and meeting some new family! I can't think of another place I want to be either. It won't be my traditional family Christmas, but I imagine there are going to be some great moments with that same kind of newness that a visit to a new country brings. And then New Year's is going to be a family celebration back home with great food and fellowship. Lobster and crab legs and at least a dozen different appetizers. I can't wait.

Some years ago, when I thought about traveling overseas to live for the first time, I couldn’t contain my excitement. I was enjoying my life in America, but there was definitely a desire in me for more. I wanted more than I had, more love and more money and more adventure. And I knew it had to be out there, just waiting for me to find it.

I recognize the same desire for something more in the children I work with. They are completely content with the toys they are playing with, until they see a toy someone else is playing with. I love watching their eyes grow big and then invariably they reach out to grab that toy. Or they are completely content in class, with me their teacher, until they catch a glimpse of mom or dad out in the hall. Then the tears start coming and they reach for the door.

It seems people are rarely satisfied with what they have. A few years ago, a new show came on TV that played upon people’s desire for more. Deal or No Deal. Millions watched as player after player passed up good deals on the hope that more money was hidden in a different case. It was amazing watching people pass up a guaranteed 200,000 dollars for a rare chance at one million. But nearly everyone did, even when the odds for winning that one million were horrible and I never saw a single one win.

It is not just money and toys that fail to satisfy. It even seems that beautiful women can’t satisfy. Tiger Woods was married to a beautiful woman, but apparently she wasn’t enough for him according to the news.

This tale is as old as time. In the Garden, Eve struggled with this very same temptation of desiring more. Walking in the Garden of Eden with God and naming the animals and enjoying her husband was not enough. When tempted with the fruit of the tree that was forbidden (a temptation she had been living with until this point perfectly fine) and told that it would make her like the gods, she looked at that fruit and saw that “it was desired to make one wise.” She wanted more than she had. She wanted to be like God, with all of His knowledge.

I am not sure if any of us are immune to this desire for more. If I offered you a beautiful house twice the size of yours for free, I doubt you’d be able to pass it up. And if I was offered a pay raise that doubled my salary, I wouldn’t turn it down. “I’m sorry boss, but I just don’t want the money…”

No, we are not immune to the desire, but looking it in the face and saying, “You know what? What I have is pretty good.” is the biggest key to being satisfied. Swami Sivananda, the Indian yoga monk said “there is no end of craving. Hence contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment.” It is true. We will never reach an end to desires. There will always be something new that comes along that makes us lick our lips and makes us forget what we have. Frederick Keonig said “we tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” That is contentment.

But how do we become content with what we have? I can’t answer that for every person, but I know what does it for me. Paul, the great writer of most of the New Testament Epistles said in a letter to the Phillipian church “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” For Paul, his contentment was knowing God and knowing that God would be with him through every circumstance in life. Solomon, the wise king of Israel said in Proverbs, “The fear of the LORD leads to life: Then one rests content, untouched by trouble.”

In a world of never enough, I have to remind myself that I have the most important thing already.

© Seth Crossman

Last week, I talked about expectation and how developing it can create positive action toward a desired goal. Well, this week I was watching a bit of TV and my program was interrupted by a commercial for Red Lobster, an East Coast seafood chain that serves some great food. It also happens to be one of my favorite restaurants. The commercial proceeded to display larger than life dishes of succulent crab legs being dipped in butter, juicy shrimp basted on the grill with garlic and parsley, tender lobster tails split open, and salmon dripping juice as it roasted on a cedar plank. It was only an hour or so after dinner, but that commercial made me hungry. I sat there on the couch and my mouth was watering! I could almost taste the crab and lobster I wanted it so bad.

My mouth was watering in expectation of tasting that food. However, I wasn’t about to get in my truck and drive half an hour to eat lobster, especially not after having eaten dinner just a short hour before. I found myself harrumphing on the couch, even a little bit frustrated. I wanted that lobster and I was upset my expectation of eating it wasn’t going to be fulfilled.

I did a little bit of research and found out that expectation causes dopamine to be released in the brain. Dopamine is neurotransmitter that helps stimulate pleasure and motivation. If you think about that for moment, it is startling. Expectation is not only a great mental principle to cultivate so that it propels you forward in life like Napoleon Bonaparte and Claude Bristol, it is also a physical reality.

With this truth also comes a problem, one I was experiencing on my couch because I wasn’t going to be able to eat lobster. What happens when an expectation is not met? Dopamine is suppressed and frustration, anger and even despair occur. The cause of these emotions can be so subtle, that most of us might not even be aware of it. We walk into our favorite restaurant only to find the wait is an hour. We get frustrated. Or we go to a movie we waited a month to see and it is awful. We are disappointed. Our wife gets pregnant and we lose the baby and depression sets in. These are all aborted expectations that have negative impacts on our lives.

So expectation can be good or bad. A key to really controlling the effects of negative expectation is developing patience. The definition of expect is “anticipating with confidence of fulfillment.” Or “something looked forward to, eager anticipation, hope.” And even “the feeling that something is about to happen.” But what happens if nothing happens, or that hope is not realized or the fulfillment never comes, or it comes late? Frustration, anger, depression? Most of us can control these effects by being patient.

I looked the word expectation up in the Bible and found something very interesting. In Hebrew, it means “lean forward, await, wait for.” The key is right there! There is a period of waiting, a period of patience, determined patience, but patience nonetheless. Digging a little deeper, I even found a reference to “watch tower” which further suggests a period of waiting.

So what does all of this mean? Sometimes the things we hope for won’t occur immediately. They can take time. Don’t miss out on what you expect, what you hope for, because you don’t have the patience to wait. I can make the mistake of compromising. I am hungry, so instead of waiting for dinner I snack on fattening chips or donuts and it ruins my meal. Some of us are impatient waiting for the right man or woman to come along and so we compromise and begin relationships with the wrong people that end up leaving us hurt and broken and disillusioned. I could go on, but the idea here is that good expectation is persistent until the thing hoped for is at last achieved.

© Seth Crossman

image courtesy of Red Lobster